Hello readers, it is great to be back! I took a two week break from writing here at Improve My Life This Year because I moved… across the world. I had been living in South Korea for almost 6 years, but now I am back in the United States of America.
Today I want to talk about confidence. Almost everyone wants to feel more confident. Well today I’ll simplify how to achieve self-confidence. There’s tons of info and contradictory ideas out there on the topic, so my goal today is to make it as clear and uncomplicated as possible. If you want to be more confident, you really only need two simple things. Let’s check them out.
Belief and Skills
That’s really it. You just need to believe in yourself and have skills at whatever you are doing. Nothing more is needed. Let’s look at these in detail.
Because of how we were raised, many of us go through life with limiting self-beliefs. “I can’t, I’ll fail, I’m not good enough,” etc. Many of these are developed in childhood and unless we stop to think about it, they remain unnoticed, affecting our lives into the present. Stop and think about it, is your gut reaction to new challenges fear or excitement? If it is fear, you need to realize that you are are likely telling yourself negative stories in your mind. You can’t be confident without first deciding to become your own number one supporter, your own your strongest fan, your own believer.
The problem is, most self-improvement advice ends here. Belief in yourself is important, but, it is not enough for true confidence and success. Think about it. Imagine if you want to fly. You can think all the positive thoughts you want. You can believe in your power to fly. You can repeat a mantra – “I can fly, I can fly, I can fly.” But if you leap from the cliff, you’ll still fall and day. True confidence isn’t ignorant positivity. It is self-assured ability. If you want true confidence to fly, you need to take pilot lessons. You need to practice flying an airplane under careful supervision and direction for months. Then, after you complete your training, you truly can believe in yourself. You can fly!
True confidence, true success requires just two things. Self-belief and skills. So now it is time to get started. Today, right now, I want you to walk over to the mirror, look at yourself, and say, “I believe in you. You can accomplish your dreams. You can overcome your weaknesses. You can become the person you wish to be.” Then I want you to take a concrete step toward gaining the skills that will grant you true confidence. Check out our reading list for some great books that’ll teach some great skills. Or check out Kaplan. They’ve got tons of great online learning materials that will set you up for confidence and success.
Get started today and soon you’ll be amazed at the confident man or woman you have become!
Until next time,