12 Traits That Turn You into an Attractive Single

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Today’s post is written by our good friend over at GlobalSeducer.com

It’s not easy to be single.

You are constantly reminded that you should be unhappy. Your mother tells you that you need someone in your life and whenever you turn on the TV you want to throw your remote control out of the window.

“Please not another romantic comedy movie” you think to yourself.

You are sick and tired of your single life. You don’t want to admit it, but your mom is right. Having someone you can talk to, someone who cuddles you and supports you would change your life.

But it’s hard. It’s hard to find the right partner.

Nevertheless, you are ready for love.

Let’s have a look at what you have to do in order to become so attractive that meeting the perfect partner becomes as easy as stealing candy from a child (not that you should do that).

You Love Yourself

Self-love is so important.

I recently read a book with the title “Love yourself like your life depends on it”. It changed my life and it reminded me of what was missing when I was a frustrated single.

I didn’t love myself. Worst of all, I didn’t understand that you first need to love yourself before someone else can love you. It took me a while to realize that. I hope it doesn’t take you as long as it took me.

Start today. Look into the mirror and say “I love myself”. It might feel a bit awkward, but these three words can change your life.

You Know Exactly What You Want

You need to know who you want to attract before you can attract the right person.

Unfortunately, a lot of singles don’t even ask themselves the most important question of all:

“What do I really want?”

Unless you know what you want, you won’t get it. Just imagine if you would apply for a job at a big company without specifically stating what job you are interested in.

Do you think this company would hire you?

Of course not!

The same is true if you want to have a relationship. When you are on a date with someone and you can’t even tell this person what you are looking for, you won’t leave a good impression.

You Are Patient and Persistent

Dating can be tedious.

You go on one date after another. The first date is boring. What about the next date? Don’t even get me started.

You might fall in love with someone who doesn’t love you. You might think that someone loves you until this person cheats on you. Then you have to start all over again.

The one trait that will help you in this situation is to be patient and persistent. If you continue to show up, success will come. This is true for every aspect of life, even for love.

You Promise Yourself to Not Settle For Less

One of the biggest mistakes that frustrated singles can make is to settle for less. They settle down with the first person who shows interest in them because they are scared of losing the only shield against a lonely life.

I think you already know why this is extremely dangerous.

There’s a high chance that the first person who shows interest in you is not the right partner for you. Just because someone likes you doesn’t mean that this someone is good for you.

Please promise yourself that you won’t settle for less. Ignore this advice and you might wake up next to your worst nightmare.

You Are Ready to Meet New People

I don’t say that you shouldn’t be afraid to meet new people.

I mean, let’s be honest. If you are alone for quite a while, leaving the house and meeting new people is hard. It takes a lot of courage, especially when you are a natural introvert like me.

But you need to do it. Meeting new people is the only way to eventually meet a new partner.

You Invest at Least One Hour a Day

Being a single who wants to have a partner is like being a college student who wants to have a diploma. If you don’t work for it, you won’t get it. It’s that simple.

What kind of work am I talking about?

Well, just like a college student, you can read blogs (like this one), buy books, and go to seminars to learn how to meet a partner. All the information you need is out there.

Investing one hour a day accumulates to 365 hours a year. You can learn a lot about dating and relationships in 365 hours.

You Have Boundaries

A person without boundaries will get hurt in the dating jungle.

The sad truth is that not all people you are going to meet are sweet and nice. You might meet someone who wants to control you. You might even meet someone who wants to psychologically abuse you.

You have to be prepared. You need to have boundaries that nobody is allowed to cross. Without boundaries, you run the risk of attracting a lot of drama that you don’t really want.

 Your Style Represents Your Personality

Having an attractive style is not the same as running after every new trend. Just because everyone is walking around in a jeans jacket doesn’t mean that it will look good on you.

You need to develop your own style. The best tip that I can give you is to choose a style that represents your personality.

The style that shows who you really are is the style that will make you more attractive.

 You Know How to Communicate

Do you want to make sure that your next date will be amazing?

Then you need to know how to communicate.

Just think about what you do on a date. You talk. Sometimes you talk for hours. You get to know each other and you do this by communicating.

 You Are Always Ready for an Adventure

Do you need to be Indiana Jones in order to attract women?

No, you don’t have to be that extreme, but you should always be ready for an adventure.

Being adventurous will set you apart from your competition. I’m serious. In today’s world so many people spend their time in front of the TV, looking at their smartphones and wasting hours watching cat videos on YouTube.

If you can prove that you are an adventurous person, everyone wants to date you.

 You Are Not Afraid to Fail

If you don’t try, you’ve already failed.

When it comes to dating, you can’t really fail unless you don’t try. I honestly think that going on 100 dates and not finding someone who is right for you is impossible.

Some of the people you meet won’t call you back. Others will pick up the phone when you call them and make up an excuse to why they can’t meet you again.

That’s life. You have to learn to deal with it. You need to accept that failure is a part of the game. You can only win if you’ve failed a few times.

 You Have a Never Giving Up Attitude

That’s why it’s so important to have a never giving up attitude.

Yes, you will fail. You will meet people who test your boundaries. There will be days when you want to hide under a blanket.

But if you don’t give up, you will eventually find love and happiness.

The Best Dating Advice I Ever Received

Recently on Quora, I shared an answer to an interesting question: What is the best dating advice you have ever been given? My answer has already received almost 300,000 views, and has generated some great conversations (and some controversy), so I decided to share it with my readers here on Improve My Life This Year.

The Best Dating Advice I Ever Received

My best friend scribbled it on a napkin in my college bar 8 years ago.

S = L + (RV x MV)

That’s the best dating advice I ever received. The basic idea is your success in dating is one part luck and another part your perceived value.

Perceived value is a function of how much actual value you generate and how well you market that value.

So for the mathematically inclined,

Success = Luck + (real value x the marketing you do), or simply

S = L + (RV x MV)

That’s pretty much it. Punch in the numbers and that’s how your dating experiences will go.

Want more luck? Take more shots (not tequila shots, though who knows, that might work too). No, the shots we are talking about are attempts. If something has a 1 in a 100 chance of occurring, then statistically, you are about 50 shots away from getting it. Ask people out. Get rejected. Ask more out. Don’t hide your intentions. If you like someone, own it and show it. All other variables held constant, you chances of dating success go up, up, up as long you get out of your own head and just talk to the girl.

Want more real value? Then find ways to become more valuable as a person. Learn how to be witty. To make great conversation. Learn where the coolest restaurants are in town. Learn a musical instrument. Get physically fit. Groom well. Develop your own style. Be honest. These things and hundreds of others as well are avenues to build your value.

Want to market your value? Don’t hide your light under the proverbial bushel. If you have a funny joke, tell it! If you know a great restaurant, invite your friends. If you play guitar, play it outside the school cafeteria on a Tuesday afternoon just because you feel like it. If you are good at presentations, volunteer to make the big sales pitch at work. Whatever it is – don’t be afraid to show off the value that you’ve worked hard to build.

That’s about it. If you follow S = L + (RV x MV), you’ll achieve dating success! Everyone has a weakest variable – find yours and work on it!

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